Online dating how and why

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It is an artificial type because both rejection and acceptance by the daters are not about the rejection and acceptance of real persons, but of the imagined or perceived attributes of their categories. New computer technology has greatly expanded people's potential and freedom to communicate with one another, some of which may generate love and romantic relationships, but online dating/matching, at least in its current format, has restricted the freedom. "It is clear that online dating has at least two problems.People never fall in love with categories (even e Harmony's use of personality traits as the basis of matching does not represent real diverse human experiences and characteristics), because only real interpersonal process can create the feeling of love. First, it is an opposite of face-to -face interaction.This type of artificial "contact" contradicts the process of meaningful interpersonal interactions (to be explained), which generates love and attraction.To explain the problem, I need to first elucidate the ingredients for love and the meaningful interactions.Love is created and maintained by the process of meaningful communications (including validating accurate perceptions and invalidating inaccurate perceptions of interpersonal reality). Additionally, love is highly individualistically based. Second, it does not help heal the emotional pains of some online daters." Please step into the 21st century of easy online communication and personal mobility. I would suggest introspection and psychotherapy, not any kind of dating.

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Please see the example I used in reply to the third commenter.Online dating is a category-based, rather than an interaction-based process.In the category-based process, one uses some concepts to predict both possibilities of acceptance and rejection by the others. I make a distinction between online communications and online dating/matching.First, it is an opposite of face-to -face interaction.Second, it does not help heal the emotional pains of some online daters.On the other hand, the right mind is more important factor.

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