You say that you give him everything he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally. you’re basically saying that you’re his perfect dream girl.Maybe what you meant is that you’re giving him everything *you think* he needs sexually, emotionally, etc. Oftentimes, we love other people in the way that we want to be loved – and while you make certain adjustments toward him since he’s a dude, it’s not safe to bet that you’re satisfying his every need…Most aren’t even consciously aware of those feelings.But if you can see past your own hurts and desires, you’ll see men everywhere trying to fill emotional voids through their actions and achievements.The fact is, he has these sexy flirtations with other women, but you don’t really know why…you don’t know his motivation or what he “gets” from it.I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and I do not understand why he won’t stop flirting with other girls.
The fact is, this whole pattern of people projecting a fantasy version of someone onto the actual person is ludicrous.
because I know there are women reading this thinking, “Why should a woman do for this flirtatious disrespectful pig of a man? Here’s the deal – you’re asking me this question because you do not find his behavior acceptable. A guy always knows a woman’s limit is measured by how much she’s willing to tolerate.
And yet, you’ve been demonstrating to him that you’re OK with it. Women feel this instinctively and will usually try to put up a front, claiming that they won’t stand for his bad behavior and making empty threats.
When you can accept him as he is, you start to show him a path towards filling that void.
When you can recognize what he “gets” from his behavior and you can truly understand him as a man, you might not take his actions personally anymore.
You chose him – you knew what kind of an animal he was when you started going out.