I take pride in my appearance, my work, and every other aspect of my life. Just because I’m plus-size doesn’t mean that you can wear sweatpants to a fancy restaurant when meeting my parents.I've found that something about being plus-size causes people to assume that, if you don't have a partner, then you must be lonely.Being attracted to plus-sized individuals is great (there's even a strip club for BBWs in Vegas), but only valuing them for their weight and not for who they are is a big problem.It’s not being body positive and it’s not forward thinking — rather, it’s dehumanizing and not OK.Not only do I have to face the regular hurdles of dating (like what to wear, where to go, and whether or not to have sex on the first date), I'm also forced to navigate some unique challenges reserved for plus-sized individuals.From offensive assumptions to overly excited relatives, here are the nine reasons dating while plus-size sucks (and why I’m happier ticking “no” for the plus-one box on invitations).I remember this one date where I ordered a dessert after a particularly large main course, and my date said “You can really pack it away, can’t you?
But if you wear something more conservative or baggy, then you’re not just a prude, you’re a prude who’s ashamed of her body. I remember more than one occasion where my date tried to make me feel ashamed of what I’d worn because it wasn’t “appropriate” for someone my size (everything from short skirts and tight pants to tankinis at the pool can garner this response).
Unfortunately, there are a lot of people who believe this stereotype, and I’ve been on more dates than I can count where I’ve ended the night almost as soon as it’s started because my companion thought buying me dinner and being affectionate meant they were entitled to something afterwards.
Getting ready for a date can be tricky for even the most fashionable of us, but it can feel downright impossible when you’re fuller-figured.
at your size,” to, “don’t worry, I think you’re beautiful…
for a plus-size woman.” I am beautiful, and it is great that I’m confident enough to wear clothing that makes me feel good about myself, but that has nothing to do with my weight.
Which is ridiculous because plus-sized women can wear any trend.